Forgiveness Can Bring Healing
“You affect the world by what you browse.”
In This Issue
- A Message From Shelley
- Don't Just Take My Word for It
- What's New?
- Did You Know?
- Tell Us What You Need to Know
A Message from Shelley
Recently I received call from a woman who had MS; her son was in his 20’s and was being verbally abusive to her. His anger over her MS and how it was affecting “his life” was escalating and she was worried about her safety; she finally had to resort to having a restraining order taken out against him. She needed to talk to someone (me in this case) about her situation.
It wasn’t the first time I’ve received a call, letter, or email with a story like this. Chronic illness affects everyone in your circle of family, friends, neighbors, coworkers, healthcare professionals, and caregivers. It changes lives and relationships, sometimes in terrible ways, and we are never the same.
Every time I hear a story like this I am heartsick. As a mother, I cannot imagine what it must be like to go through life, let alone life with a chronic illness, separated from those you love the most. And worse yet is the never-ending effects, should one or the other of you die with this rift between you; for then it will be unfinished business that can never be resolved.
If you find yourself in this kind of situation, do what you can to reconnect "before it is too late." If talking one-on-one does not work, try expressing yourself in a heartfelt letter being sure that there is no hint of finger pointing or blame, just an honest appeal to seek to understand. I also encourage you to talk with clergy or a professional trained in conflict resolution, counseling, or psychotherapy — someone the other person would trust and respect. Perhaps suggest that they pick the counselor, as long as they have conflict resolution training. If the other person will not go to counseling with you, go by yourself so even if you cannot find resolution you will still be able to find peace.
Life is too short to let the struggles of MS, or anything else for that matter, come between family members. Forgiveness is a virtue we could all learn to express more freely, and in doing so open opportunities for more love and peace to enter our lives.
May peace be with you,
Don't Just Take My Word for It
“Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were.”
~ Cherie Carter-Scott
“Forgiveness is almost a selfish act because of its immense benefits to the one who forgives.”
~ Lawana Blackwell
“Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache, and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth. Forgiveness gives you back the laughter and the lightness in your life.”
~ Joan Lunden
“Forgiveness does not always lead to a healed relationship. Some people are not capable of love, and it might be wise to let them go along with your anger. Wish them well, and let them go their way.”
~ Real Live Preacher
NEW Tips for Making Life Easier™ Videos on the Web
Last year, I told you about the excitement of shooting a series of videos for the National Multiple Sclerosis Society (NMSS) featuring me demonstrating practical, everyday Tips for Making Life EasierTM around the house. Though created for people with Primary Progressive MS, these tips would be helpful for anyone coping with physical limitations caused by chronic illness, disability, or aging. Watch these videos for making life easier in the bathroom, bedroom, kitchen, and for staying connected and tell me what you think. Would they help you?
Did You Know?
FREE Wheelchair Service at Airports
If you are traveling by air and you cannot manage the long walk from the front door to the gate, ask the airline to schedule a wheelchair escort for you. Whether you have a permanent disability or a temporary one, due to a broken leg or recent surgery (a friend’s daughter used this service to fly home after a Cesarean birth), an escort will meet you at the door to the airport, take you through check-in, baggage, and security and wheel you right to the door of the plane where other assistance and devices such as an aisle chair are available if needed. Upon landing, an escort will meet you at the plane and wheel you to the front door and wait with you until your ride arrives. Ask about this service when booking your flight.
Tell Us What You Need to Know
Do you have questions you would like answered about living with a chronic illness? The staff of Meeting Life’s Challenges, all of whom have a chronic illness or disability, want to help. Please tell us what you want to know. Please e-mail any comments, questions, or suggestions to: Shelley@MakingLifeEasier.com.